Discipline for both neurotypical children and children on the spectrum is about teaching boundaries and emotional regulation. Children with ASD have unique challenges regulating emotions and learning socio-normative behaviors, and because of this, discipline can be especially challenging! Here at Children's Milestone, we use ABA therapy to support children with autism and focus on a child’s needs based on their strengths and weaknesses. Continue reading to learn a few tips for effective discipline for children with autism, and if you’d like to learn more about our autism programs, contact us today in Greenbelt!
Positive Reinforcement
One of the most important things to remember when disciplining a child with ASD is that positive reinforcement works best. Children with autism respond very well to praise and rewards, so make sure you are praising your child for good behavior as often as possible. This will help them learn what is expected of them and will encourage them to continue behaving appropriately.
Consistency, Consistency, Consistency!
Another key element to effective discipline for a child with ASD is consistency. When you establish rules and expectations, make sure you stick to them. This will help your child learn what is expected of them and will help them feel secure knowing what to expect in their day-to-day life.
Speak Literally & Clearly
For the child on the spectrum, speaking literally and clearly is one of the best ways to discipline them. For example, if your child throws a fit and you tell them that they will sit in time out for three minutes every time they throw a fit, make sure that you follow through with it. Another way to speak literally with an autistic child is to use visual aids. For example, if you are asking your child to clean their room, show them what you want them to do by physically demonstrating it. This will help them understand what is expected of them and will prevent further problems.
Focus On Actions
When disciplining your child, it’s important to focus on the action or behavior itself and communicate that as clearly as possible. Your child needs to know that they are being disciplined for the action they’ve done, not because of who they are as a person. You also should try to remember that they are most likely acting out for a specific reason — such as avoiding a stressful situation or gaining attention — and try to show them how to more appropriately communicate what they want or need.
Every child on the spectrum is unique — as is the discipline that works best for them! Take advice with a grain of salt (including the advice in this blog post!) and ask yourself if that advice is appropriate for your child’s needs. Here at Children’s Milestone, we work hard to create customized treatment plans, and we’d be more than happy to talk with you about our autism programs. Contact us today to learn more!